What If …?

Last November I sat down at a table at Costa Coffee, opened my notebook and wrote What If …? at the top of the page.  Half an hour later I left with a completely new structure for my coaching business — focusing only on those aspects which I’m really passionate about and which I find the most joyful — and letting go of the rest. This year I’ve been putting that structure into practice and it has made a radical difference to the way I approach, and feel about, my work. m What If… questions can lead you to exciting … Continue reading

Plan Backwards – Achieve More

The dawning of a new year is naturally an ideal time to take stock, make plans and think about the goals we want to achieve and changes we want to make in the year ahead. But experience tells us that the majority of New Year resolutions fall by the wayside, and by February most of us will be back to square one. So if you fancy doing things a bit differently this year — here’s another approach: Imagine that it’s the end of 2015 and you’re sitting down to reflect on the successes and achievements of the year just passed. … Continue reading

From Darkness Into Light

Last weekend I went to the Advent Service at Salisbury Cathedral.  At the beginning of the service, as the clock struck five, the cathedral was plunged into darkness.  One solitary candle was lit at the West Door and then gradually, to the sound of sublime choral plainsong, hundreds of candles were lit throughout the vast space of the cathedral.  It’s hard to describe just how deeply moving, uplifting and life-affirming the service was. Just before it began, we were invited to think about those who might perhaps be in a dark place in their lives. The service was a comforting … Continue reading

Let’s Get Creative!

I’ve never really considered myself to be particularly creative. But a few years ago it struck me (like a bolt of lightening actually) that I really am.  After all, creativity doesn’t have to be confined to ‘the arts’.  It can show up everywhere: how we resolve problems, design a business, choose plants for the garden, cook or decorate our home. Over the years I’ve coached lots of ‘lapsed creatives’ who have allowed their creative pursuits to get pushed aside in favour of activities that will make money (very important of course) and/or that are perceived — by themselves and others … Continue reading

How to Get Unstuck & Back into Flow

This morning I sat down at the computer to write this tip and I felt completely blocked.  Everything I tried felt wrong.  Either I sat staring at the screen with absolutely no inspiration or, when I did write something, it sounded trite, clichéd and naff.  Nothing was flowing.  Even worse, when I did finally get a few words down that I was relatively happy with my system went down and I lost everything I’d written!  I felt thoroughly down-hearted and fed up. So rather than continuing to bang my head against the proverbial brick wall, I switched everything off and … Continue reading

The Wisdom of Hindsight

When the prolific song-writer Jimmy Webb was 14, the very first single he bought was by Glen Campbell. He describes how he played the record so much that eventually it wore out and he had to buy another copy. He also describes how he dreamed that one day he’d write a song for Glen Campbell. A decade later he famously wrote Wichita Lineman which Glen Campbell recorded. Jacqueline du Pre was only four years old when she heard a cello being played for the first time. She told her mother that she wanted ‘one of those…’ and went on to … Continue reading

Are You Missing This Important Step?

You set yourself a goal. You chunk it down into smaller action steps. You take action towards that goal and finally — days, weeks or months later — you achieve your goal. Happy days! So what do you do next?  Most likely, you’ll move on, set yourself another goal and start the cycle all over again.  All well and good?  Well actually no. It’s great that you’ve achieved your goal, of course, but you’ve missed  out on one crucial step. And that is — taking time out to acknowledge and celebrate your achievement. This may seem like a small thing, … Continue reading

3 Ways to Boost Your Energy

I’m writing this tip just after the Spring Equinox and a glance at the natural world will tell you that spring has arrived at last. Gardens, trees and hedgerows have suddenly erupted with energy and growth. It feels wonderful — and a huge relief after such an interminably long, dreary and waterlogged winter! With the longer days bringing some warmth and sunshine we’re naturally inclined to feel more positive and energetic at this time of year.  But if you’re still feeling a little sluggish or stuck, here are a few ideas for boosting your energy and getting things flowing again: … Continue reading

Setting the Intention

Last week, on a decluttering campaign, I found a piece of paper which was dated March 2012.  On the top of the page I’d written What I want …  and it was followed by a long series of bullet points. The list felt rather random: it covered a wide range of things relating to many different aspects of my life. The thing that gave me pause was that, without exception, every single one of them had come true. I was really struck by this and even more so because I hadn’t made a conscious effort to ‘make all the things … Continue reading

A Radical Approach to the New Year

I feel as if this Tip should be preceded by one of those warnings they give you on TV: “Warning — this Tip contains radical concepts and scenes of an explosive nature…” That’s because I’m not starting 2014 with a nice gentle tip about setting New Year Resolutions but something altogether more challenging. It’s inspired by an article I read a few years ago by US Coach Michael Neil.  In his article Michael describes a radical process he had gone through to breathe some new life into his coaching business. He called it, rather dramatically, ‘Blowing Up Your Business’ and … Continue reading