What If …?

Last November I sat down at a table at Costa Coffee, opened my notebook and wrote What If …? at the top of the page.  Half an hour later I left with a completely new structure for my coaching business — focusing only on those aspects which I’m really passionate about and which I find the most joyful — and letting go of the rest. This year I’ve been putting that structure into practice and it has made a radical difference to the way I approach, and feel about, my work. m What If… questions can lead you to exciting … Continue reading

3 Keys to Success in 2012

We will open the book. Its pages are blank. We are going to put words on them ourselves. The book is called Opportunity and its first chapter is New Year's Day. (Edith Lovejoy Pierce) I really like these words. They're a helpful reminder that whatever the time of the year (but perhaps especially the turning of a new one) we are the authors of our own story. And so, with that in mind, here are a few suggestions of how to make the very best of the year to come. 1. Plan Backwards Imagine that it’s the end of 2012 … Continue reading

What Went Well Today?

This month's tip is written with Thanksgiving in mind. It's a holiday I remember with great affection from my many years living in Southern California. Much has been written about the importance of gratitude: being mindful of, and appreciating, all that we have to be grateful for, even (and perhaps especially) when times are tough or particularly challenging. But in this tip I'm going to focus on the importance of appreciating ourselves and our achievements. Personally, I don't think we do enough of it. And when we do actually stop to consider what we've achieved — in a day, a … Continue reading

10 Ways to Boost Your Confidence

"The mind is everything. What we think, we become." (The Buddha) Everyone has their ups and downs. No matter how confident we may seem on the outside, I don't know anyone who's 100% confident all the time. While many of us sail along most of the time feeling pretty much OK, every now and again things can conspire to shake our confidence and our sense of self. The word confidence comes from the Latin confidere, which means to have full trust. Confidence is about having faith in yourself – in your qualities and your abilities – and trusting that whatever … Continue reading

Upside-Down Goal Setting

Like many others, I’m not a fan of New Year Resolutions. Naturally, the dawning of a brand new year is a great time to take stock and think about all the changes we want to make; but experience shows that the majority of resolutions fall by the wayside, and by February most of us will be back to our bad old ways. So if you want to make changes – and like the idea of doing things a bit differently this year – here’s a new approach: Rather than looking ahead from the beginning of January and trying to figure … Continue reading

From Darkness Into Light

A couple of weeks ago I went to an Advent Procession service in Salisbury Cathedral. The service began in total darkness and then gradually, to the sound of the most sublime choral plainsong, hundreds of candles all around the vast space of the Cathedral were lit and the procession began. It was a deeply moving and uplifting experience. Advent is, of course, all about the coming of the Light.  But we're not far now from the Winter Solstice; that day in the depths of winter that heralds the turning of the earth from winter to spring – from darkness into … Continue reading