Readers in the UK may well be aware of a national campaign that launched at the start of the month called Stoptober which is designed to help people quit smoking.
When we consider personal development and making positive life changes, we tend to think about all the things we want to start doing. But sometimes it can be useful to focus on what we want to let go of — or stop doing.
My attention was drawn to this by a friend who is whole-heartedly embracing the concept of Stoptober. She doesn’t need to stop smoking, but instead she’s choosing to stop saying ‘yes’ to everything.
I thought this was a brilliant idea, so here are a few more suggestions for things we could stop doing during the month of October:
Trying to do things perfectly
Gossiping about others
Putting everybody else’s needs before our own
Watching too much TV
Criticising others — and ourselves
Leaving everything until the last minute
Going to bed late
Taking others for granted
This month I’m going to stop giving myself a hard time when I get things wrong. That’s a big one for me. In the last few months I’ve been trying to stop leaving for appointments at the last minute. I realised how much stress I experience when I have to rush because I’ve left home late. The experience of being able to drive at a leisurely pace and arrive at a meeting in an unhurried and unstressed manner is an unexpected delight!
What about you? Is there anything you’d like to stop doing? I’d love to hear from you with your ideas.
Whatever you choose to stop doing, have a great month!
© Annabel Sutton, Coaching Tips – 2013